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Frequently asked questions

New to Swingers Near Me, or new to the lifestyle? These friendly, plain answers cover the questions people ask most, including how joining works, what a free profile includes, how membership levels differ, and how your privacy is looked after. If you cannot find what you need here, the Community and Safety pages are good places to look next.

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Questions

Who can join?

Any adult aged 18 or over. You can join as a couple or on your own.

Does it cost anything to start?

No. A Classic account is free. You can build a profile, browse members, get daily match suggestions and send a limited number of messages a day. VIP and VIP Plus add more.

How discreet is it?

Your real name and email are never shown publicly, and other members see only your nearest town or city. You choose what goes on your profile.

How does verification work?

ID verification is free and optional, and gives you a visible blue tick. You can also choose a live video check with a moderator, which needs no documents.

What do the badges mean?

Members earn badges through activity, such as Verified, Chatterbox, Heartthrob and Most Popular. They show you are real, active and worth getting to know.

How many messages can I send for free?

Classic members can send a limited number of messages each day and can always reply to VIP and VIP Plus members. VIP and VIP Plus members can message without limits.

How do I block or report someone?

Use the block button to stop someone contacting you straight away, or use the reporting tools on any profile or piece of content.

Do I need to live in a big city?

No. Matches take account of how close people are, so pick your nearest area and see who is around you.

Can I join as a couple?

Yes. Couples are very welcome. Create a couple profile and say who you would like to meet, whether that is other couples, single men or single women.

What if I only want to chat for now?

That is fine. There is no pressure to meet anyone. Plenty of members spend time chatting, joining polls and getting to know people before they decide on anything else.

Can I choose who I hear from?

Yes. You say who you would like to meet when you create your profile, and you can block anyone you do not want to hear from.

Will my partner and I see the same profile?

A couple profile describes the two of you together, so you can both decide what goes on it and who you reply to.

What should I put on my profile?

Say whether you are a couple or single, who you would like to meet and what you are into. Clear photos and a friendly, honest tone get the best replies.

What happens if someone is rude?

Block them and report them. Blocking is instant, and reports are looked at by the moderation team.

Can I use it on my phone?

Yes. It works in your phone's browser, and you can add it to your home screen.

Ready to create your profile?

Step 1 10% complete

Let us get your profile started.

First, who are you?

Choose the one that fits you.

Please choose one so we know who you are.

And who would you like to meet?

Choose what suits you. You can change your mind later.

Please choose one so we know who you would like to meet.

When were you born?

Please set the year to your own. You need to be 18 or over to join.

Please choose a full date of birth. You need to be 18 or over.

Last step. Your name and email.

Use a first name or nickname if you prefer. You will choose your password on the next screen.

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