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Glossary

The swinging lifestyle has its own words, and they can be confusing when you first see them on a profile or in a message. This glossary gives plain language meanings for the terms you are most likely to meet, so you can read profiles with confidence, ask the right questions and know exactly what people mean before you reply.

18+ only. Discreet and consensual.

The words

Bi-curious

Someone who is curious about intimacy with their own gender.

Boundaries

The limits you set for yourself and agree with others before you meet.

Consent

A clear, freely given yes that can be withdrawn at any moment. Silence or hesitation is never a yes.

Couple seeking

A couple looking to meet another person or another couple.

Etiquette

The shared good manners of the lifestyle: ask first, accept no gracefully, be on time and keep other people's privacy.

Foursome

Four people sharing an intimate experience, often two couples.

Full swap

Swinging where all intimate activity is open between the people who have agreed to it.

Hard limit

Something you are not willing to do under any circumstances.

Ice breaker

A relaxed first meeting, often just a drink, so everyone can see whether there is a connection.

Open relationship

A relationship where partners agree they can have other romantic or sexual connections, with honest communication throughout.

Parties and clubs

Organised social events and venues where members meet. Dress codes and house rules vary, so check before you go.

Play partner

Someone you meet to share an intimate experience with, as agreed beforehand.

Safe word

A word that stops everything straight away when anyone says it.

Same room

An arrangement where everyone stays in the same room during intimate activity.

Separate rooms

An arrangement where partners go off with different people in different rooms.

Soft swap

Swinging that stops short of full sex, such as kissing and touching, within limits everyone has agreed.

Swinging

When couples, and sometimes singles, agree together to share intimate experiences with other people.

The lifestyle

A shared word for adult couples and singles who enjoy swinging and the social scene around it, with consent at the centre.

Threesome

Three people sharing an intimate experience.

Throuple

A committed relationship between three people.

Unicorn

A single person who joins a couple for a shared experience.

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